Bullying isnāt always loud. Sometimes, it whispers through small behaviors, sudden mood changes, or quiet tears behind closed doors.
As parents, we want to protect our kids from everythingābut when it comes to bullying, it can be tricky to spot. Many children are too afraid or embarrassed to speak up. So how do you know when somethingās wrong?
Here areĀ 5 subtle signsĀ that your child might be experiencing bullying at schoolāand what you can do about it.
1. Sudden Mood Swings or Withdrawal
Was your child once bubbly and outgoing, and now seems withdrawn or easily irritated? This emotional shift can be a quiet cry for help.
- "I donāt want to talk about it."
- They seem sad or unusually sensitive
- Mood swings or frustration appear out of nowhere
- Loss of interest in favorite hobbies
2. Avoiding School or Activities They Once Loved
Kids might fake illness, beg to stay home, or suddenly hate the very things they used to look forward to.
- Frequent complaints of headaches or stomachaches
- Avoiding specific friends, buses, or school events
- Asking to switch classes or schools
3. Physical Signs with No Clear Explanation
Not all bullying leaves bruises, but when it doesādonāt overlook it.
- Unexplained scratches, bruises, or torn clothes
- Missing items like books, toys, or lunch money
- Broken backpacks or school supplies4. Sleep or Appetite Changes
The body speaks when the mind is overwhelmed.
- Trouble sleeping or recurring nightmares
- Bedwetting or night waking (especially in younger kids)
- Eating too much or skipping meals altogether
5. Silence About School Life
A sudden lack of interest in sharing about their school day is often more than just āteen moodiness.ā
- Avoiding questions about friends or teachers
- Loss of confidence or increase in anxiety
- Fearful of social media or text messages
What Can You Do as a Parent?
ā¤ļø You are your childās safe space. When you notice a shift, lean in with love and curiosityānot pressure.
Create space for open talks
Ask gentle questions at the right timeālike during car rides or bedtime. Let them know you're always there to listen.
Keep an eye on social circles
Who are they spending time with? Are they suddenly isolated?
Loop in the school
Teachers, counselors, or school staff can be allies. Speak up if something feels off.
Empower them
Teach them emotional resilience through role-playing, positive affirmations, and confidence-building routines.
Ask for help
Thereās no shame in therapy. Professional support can offer powerful tools for healing and growth.