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Create Your Own 'Calm Down Box': A Small Tool for Big Emotional Moments

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Maria Karachaliou

Maria, founder of Momizen and mom of three, is all about making life easier (and more fun) for parents. She’s on a mission to help families discover the coolest after-school activities, while connecting them with local gems. Parenting hacks, local spots, and tons of fun—find it all on Momizen! She holds a degree in Psychology and a master’s in Business from the University of Kent.

A child's hand squeezing a bright pink stress ball from his quiet box, a box where children and parents can keep fun distractions that help them release tension that is hard to express with words, as described in the blog post Create Your Own 'Calm Down Box': A Small Tool for Big Emotional Moments on Momizen.

Create Your Own 'Calm Down Box': A Small Tool for Big Emotional Moments

There are moments when tension rises, voices grow louder, hands clench, and words are lost. Not just for us, but for our children too. In those moments, a little breath, a pause, a calm down box can make all the difference.

The calm down box is a practical idea inspired by the principles of emotional regulation. It is a friendly, non-punitive way to help children manage intense emotions like anger, frustration, or anxiety. It's not about silencing emotions, but about offering active support.

So, what is this box?

It's a simple box (or basket or shoebox decorated by the child) filled with small items that help calm the senses and promote self-regulation. It's not a punishment – it's a refuge.

The philosophy is this: when a child knows they have their own 'calm space', their sense of control and safety is strengthened, allowing them to manage the emotion without being overwhelmed.

Many children hesitate to express how they feel in words, but they can find a valuable emotional outlet through using items from the box or through the quiet time it offers. It's important not to present it as a tool for 'good children', but as every child's right to care.

What can it include?

  • Tactile items: playdough, sponges, stress balls

  • Visual stimuli: a glitter bottle, a kaleidoscope

  • Sounds: a small box with nature sounds, music, or a small instrument

  • Emotion booklet or cards: with faces and short phrases ("I feel angry", "I need a hug")

  • Pictures or drawings made by the child that bring them joy

  • A small bag with dried herbs or an essential oil for scent

  • A list of “5 things that help me calm down”, written together with the child

  • A 'magic' mirror where the child sees themselves calm and smiling

  • A small 'release' notebook where they can draw or write (with or without help) how they felt and what helped

  • A small note from the parent or teacher, reminding the child they are not alone.

When do we use it?

Not only when there’s tension! It can become a routine of calm, so the child becomes familiar with it before it's actually needed.

When a strong emotion arises, the box serves as a transition space from tension to calm.

A nice idea is to dedicate some time every afternoon or evening to the box, even without a particular reason, so it becomes associated with care rather than correction.

Tip: Create your own calming ritual. For example, choose an item from the box, hold it in your hand, close your eyes, and take three deep breaths together.

What do we gain?

  • The child learns that emotions are natural

  • They learn ways to manage them without suppressing them

  • The parent becomes a companion, not a punisher

And above all

  • small crises no longer have to turn into big conflicts. The child gains tools, and you gain… moments of peace.

The calm down box isn’t magical. But it is a bridge. From chaos to understanding. From tension to connection. Gradually, this process cultivates an inner voice of care rather than guilt – and that is a gift that lasts a lifetime!

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